The Surprise of Heroic: The Story Behind This Unlikely Book

Heroic, true manhood, by Bill Delvaux

For a video version of this blog, go to Today is the official release day for Heroic: The Surprising Path to True Manhood. But what is even more surprising is how it all happened. It is really three separate surprises. Here’s the backstory on the book on this very unlikely book. In December of […]

A Boy’s First Hero

A boy's first hero is his father

With the imminent release of Heroic next week, I wanted to give all of you another excerpt from the book, this time from the beginning of Chapter 2. Read and enjoy! “In all my years growing up, I have only one life-giving memory of my father. I was in the fifth or sixth grade, and […]

Four Traits of Manly Men

Sprinting and racing

Photo by tableatny on / CC BY For a video version of this post, click here. Perhaps my favorite class as a high school teacher was called Men in the Bible, a class that sought to point out the path into manhood. One of the perennial topics of discussion was what made men manly. […]

Searching for a Hero

Boy in a ball cap

Photo by sarowen on / CC BY-NC-ND With the imminent release of Heroic on April 2, I thought I would give you another excerpt from Chapter 1. Here it is! Whom did you look up to as a boy? Whom did you admire as a young man? Who seemed to have the strength and […]

The Oxymoron of the Self-Made Man

Cowboy riding his horse

An oxymoron is a figure of speech in which two contradictory things are brought together. Some examples might be a circular square, an ugly beauty, or the falsely true. Oxymoron comes from a Greek word that means pointedly foolish. And such contradictory terms do appear especially ridiculous. But not all oxymorons strike us as absurd. […]

Go Deep or Go Home

Land planning and survey

When I taught high school, one of the science teachers told me about a fascinating assignment he gave to his class one day. They went outside and sat down on assigned places on the lawn. Then he marked out for each of them a tiny square piece of grass and told them to watch and […]

The Masculine Crisis

Man standing

For a video version of this blog, click here. Men are in trouble. You can slice and dice the statistics any way you want to, and it comes back with the same result. There is a scourge of fatherlessness among boys and young men. There are daily revelations of male sexual harassment and abuse. There […]

Four Reasons Why Silence Could Be A Man’s Best Friend

Contemplation and meditation

For a video version on this blog, click here. One of the first questions men ask each other is about their work. Here is how I like to answer it: “I help men enter silence.” I get some fascinating responses to that one! On the whole, I think the idea of silence strikes men as […]

Four Ways Spiritual Direction Could Help You

For a video version, click here. A few years ago I couldn’t have told you anything about spiritual direction. Now I find myself a spiritual director for a growing number of men. The journey has been such a surprise for me. So here’s the big question I had at the beginning: Just what exactly is […]

I Am No Hero

After 3 long years of work, it’s almost out — Heroic: The Surprising Path to True Manhood. Go check out to see more about it, get an excerpt with Chapter 1, and preorder a copy. Release date is April 2. But now I would like to offer you the brief introduction, titled “I Am […]