What Are You Attached To?
We were born with a drive to attach. It’s not an option. We will attach to something, either life-giving or life-destroying. Which path are you on? What are you attached to? Let’s start by explaining a bit of attachment theory, developed from research in the 1960s and 70s. A Brief Primer on Attachment There are […]
Let The Healing Begin!
Over the past year or so, my work with men has expanded into a new arena. It’s a place we all struggle with at different points in our lives. And it’s a place I have seen God do wonders. What is this arena? The healing of our bodies. As a spiritual director, I have the […]
Pay Attention To The Voices
It’s confession time. Heidi will tell me something, and my mind is a million miles away, focused on something else. Then five minutes later I will ask her a question about the very thing she was telling me. I’m caught with no excuses! I wasn’t listening to her. I was just pretending to. I didn’t […]
Let God Come Close
Any man starting on a spiritual journey can feel like he is doing all the work. He is the one searching for God, trying to feel close to Him, and looking for ways to connect to Him. Some days he feels as if he is gaining ground, others as if he has slid backward, and […]
What’s Your Mission for 2021?
The future seems to outsmart the best of us. No one could have foreseen what 2020 would be like. So I refuse any temptation to prognosticate about this year. But I can speak to how we can face it. Let’s start with a question: What’s your mission for 2021? To have a mission means you […]
The Two Choices of Love
After a much needed hiatus from writing, I am now resuming my weekly blogs. Each month will focus on a certain theme. The December theme will be a fitting Christmas one: the love of God. Here we go… In my work with men over the years, and now especially as a spiritual director, there is […]
Expressing Love in Brotherhood
This is the fourth and last in a series of posts on brotherhood. As a general rule, men struggle with expressing love in brotherhood. The awkwardness occurs for any number of reasons. There can be family origin issues where love was poorly expressed or not at all. Then there is the difficulty men have in […]
The Brotherhood of the Quest
This post continues the blog series on brotherhood. The first one dealt with the initial step in all true brotherhood, a deep sharing of hearts. In the second post, we moved into the foundation of brotherhood, experiencing Jesus as our Brother. In this third post, I want to explore the brotherhood of the quest. What […]
The Brotherhood of Jesus
This is the second in a series of posts on brotherhood. In the first post, I outlined the first step toward true brotherhood, a sharing of stories that allows a bonding of hearts. In this post, I want to take a second step and explore the foundation of true brotherhood — Jesus Himself. The brotherhood […]
The Brotherhood of the Broken
This post begins a new series on the topic of brotherhood. By the word brotherhood, I mean how a man binds himself to other men and so experiences a bond between them. It does not come easy. Women easily create community. But men tend to isolate. Underneath all the cultural and personal reasons for staying […]