Why Self-Hatred Is Such A Deadly Peril

“To hate oneself is to walk alongside oneself.” Leanne Payne There are those who will openly admit to hating themselves, but for many it comes up in more subtle ways. It may be a dislike of your name, or a jealousy over the life of another, or something about your appearance that displeases you, or […]

Invite Your Sexual Self To Be Your Friend

Of all the topics I have discussed with men, this one is the most fraught with tension and peril. We all have a story of sexual formation, and that story for every man I have ever known is littered with shame and confusion. Mine is no different. This topic can become even more problematic once […]

The Brotherhood of Jesus

This is the second in a series of posts on brotherhood. In the first post, I outlined the first step toward true brotherhood, a sharing of stories that allows a bonding of hearts. In this post, I want to take a second step and explore the foundation of true brotherhood — Jesus Himself. The brotherhood […]

The Brotherhood of the Broken

This post begins a new series on the topic of brotherhood. By the word brotherhood, I mean how a man binds himself to other men and so experiences a bond between them. It does not come easy. Women easily create community. But men tend to isolate. Underneath all the cultural and personal reasons for staying […]

“What’s the worst thing that could happen?”

The question took me by surprise. It came in a conversation with a close friend who has walked with me over the past few years.  We were talking about living out the vision for our lives and not getting stuck in lives of mere survival and passivity. As I spoke about my own hesitation and […]